10,000 Papercuts

Discipleship
Just about any husband says that he would die for his wife. What we have in mind is usually a heroic, quick death. Taking a bullet on her behalf, pushing her out of the way of a train. You know, the kind of deaths that you see as meaningful. But how many husbands would glamorize a slow death that lasts a lifetime? If we give our lives away to Jesus by loving our wives as Christ loved the Church, and if we are called by Him to die to self daily, then prolonged death is actually what we're supposed to be doing. Ask yourself, "How am I denying myself for the sake of my wife?" While you're at it, how are you denying yourself for the sake of your neighbor?…
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Stop Smoking Day

Discipleship, Life
I had my last cigarette five years ago today. Even now, there are times when I have a craving . And when I do, I remind myself that I am no longer a smoker. That isn't who I am anymore . Sounds overly simple, doesn't it? No looking at how much money I've saved. No factoring of health improvements. Not even the social changes that come when you are no longer part of the smoking circle. My entire strategy to continue as a non-smoker comes down to a matter of identity. Identity is a great tool in making any change. Sure, you can try harder. You can reward yourself. You can use any number of behavior modification techniques, but what finally got me to quit smoking after twenty years was a…
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a la brava

Discipleship, Life
I recently had my third visit with Mike, the woodworker who has taken me under his wing in a mentoring relationship. The plan of the day was for him to show me how to build cabinets. We planned out what dimensions would make sense in his shop and gathered the wood from his cache. Since this is a shop cabinet, we won't be too worried about the beauty of it, but Mike's expectation is to end up with a piece that is sturdy and built to perform its function for years to come. The cabinet is actually two identical cabinets, each with double doors. The intention is that the two pieces will match each other and be attached together side by side. Mike made the first front piece with my…
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Finding a Mentor Nextdoor

Discipleship, DIY, Life
No, that post title isn't misspelled. Or rather it is purposefully misspelled. I have this app called Nextdoor on my phone. You put your address in it and it shows a map of what it says your neighborhood is. Mine is a bit bigger than what I would think of, but that's fine. Once your neighborhood is designated, you can post post anything there that matters to someone in your proximity. Garage sales, babysitter requests, items for sale, open houses, etc. And these posts will be seen by anyone who has the Nextdoor app and is in that area, and also in surrounding neighborhoods depending on your settings. Someone in my area was selling a handmade dog bed frame a few weeks ago, and from the posting it was clear that they had…
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Doug McHone’s Testimony (2016)

Discipleship
I've been asked to share my testimony, and at first I approached this like I would my resume. I would just pull out a former example and tweak it into an updated version, highlighting the sort of things that would be most relevant in the current matter of hand. I wrote a version several years ago, even shared it on my website. It was the gold standard and would require the least amount of updating. Of course, that version is nowhere to be found. Maybe it's in the innards of my website and I just need to contact the hosting company to see if it's tucked away somewhere in there. As I was pondering this, I became convicted of a few things.  I'm approaching a spiritual exercise in a carnal manner.…
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Social Circle of Life

Discipleship, Life
AKA: The endless search for the one ring to rule them all I've been blogging for a dozen plus years. But not always on my blog. The mediums have changed. The acceptable content lengths, structures and cadences have changed. But I have been sharing my thoughts, for better or worse, for a dozen years. And as I look back on it, it's all been done with the same intention, no matter the vehicle. Creating community through the public written word has been the name of the game, and using my written thoughts toward personal growth. Whenever one goal or the other becomes over-emphasized, the writing has suffered. A dozen years ago, when I started, there was no Facebook to my knowledge. MySpace wasn't taken seriously by anyone over 16. Forums…
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